Archive for Self Improvement
Self Improvement Needs To Become A Priority
Posted by: | CommentsSometimes, when all our doubts, fears and insecurities wrap ourselves up, we always come up with the idea of “I wish I was somebody else.” More often than not, we think and believe that someone or rather, most people are better than us.- when in reality, the fact is, most people are more scared than us.
You spot a totally eye-catching girl sitting by herself at a party, casually sipping on a glass of Asti Spumanti. You think to yourself, “she looks so perfectly calm and confident.” But if you could read thru her transparent mind, you would see a bunch of clouds of thoughts and you might just be amazed that she’s thinking “are people talking about why I am seated here alone?… Why don’t guys find me attractive? I don’t like my ankles, they look too skinny. I wish I was as intelligent as my best friend.”
We look at a young business entrepreneur and say “Wooha! what else could he ask for?” He stares at himself at the mirror and murmur to himself, “I hate my big eyes. I wonder why my friends won’t talk to me. I hope mom and dad would still work things out.”
Isn’t it funny? We look at other people, envy them for looking so outrageously perfect and wish we could trade places with them, while they look at us and thinks of the same thing. We are insecure of other people who themselves are insecure of us. We suffer from low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence and lose hope in self improvement because we are enveloped in quiet desperation.
Sometimes, you notice that you have an irritating habit like biting off your finger nails, having a foul mouth, and you, of all people, is the last to know.
I have a friend who never gets tired of talking. And in most conversations, she is the only one who seems to be interested in the things she has to say. So all of our other friends tend to avoid the circles whenever she’s around, and she doesn’t notices how badly she became socially handicapped, gradually affecting the people in her environment.
One key to self improvement is to LISTEN and TALK to a trusted friend. Find someone who you find comfort in opening up with even the most gentle topics you want to discuss. Ask questions like “do you think I am ill-mannered?”, “Do I always sound so argumentative?”, “Do I talk too loud?”, “Does my breath smell?”, “Do I ever bore you when were together?”. In this way, the other person will obviously know that you are interested in the process of self improvement. Lend her your ears for comments and criticisms and don’t give her answers like “Don’t exaggerate! That’s just the way I am!” Open up your mind and heart as well. And in return, you may want to help your friend with constructive criticism that will also help her improve her self.
One of Whitney Houston’s songs says “Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.” True enough. In order to love others, you must love yourself too. Remember, you cannot give what you do not have.
Before telling other people some ways on how to improve themselves, let them see that you yourself is a representation and a product of self improvement. Self improvement makes us better people, we then inspire other people, and then the rest of the world will follow.
Stop thinking of yourselves as second-rate beings. Forget the repetitive thought of “If only I was richer, if only I was thinner” and so on. Accepting your true self is the first step to self improvement. We need to stop comparing ourselves to others only to find out at the end that we’ve got 10 more reasons to envy them.
We all have our insecurities. Nobody is perfect. We always wish we had better things, better features, better body parts, etc. But life need not to be perfect for people to be happy about themselves. Self improvement and loving yourself is not a matter of shouting to the whole world that you are perfect and you are the best. It’s the virtue of acceptance and contentment. When we begin to improve ourselves, we then begin to feel contented and happy.
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Ways To Unlock Your Self Improvement Power
Posted by: | CommentsWhen we look at a certain object, a painting for example; we won’t be able to appreciate what’s in it, what is painted and what else goes with it if the painting is just an inch away from our face. But if we try to take it a little further, we’ll have a clearer vision of the whole art work.
We reach a point in our life when we are ready for change and a whole bunch of information that will help us unlock our self improvement power. Until then, something can be staring us right under our nose but we don’t see it. The only time we think of unlocking our self improvement power is when everything got worst. Take the frog principle for example;
Try placing Frog A in a pot of boiling water. What happens? He twerps! He jumps off! Why? Because he is not able to tolerate sudden change in his environment, the water temperature. Then try Frog B: place him in luke warm water, then turn the gas stove on. Wait til the water reaches a certain boiling point. Frog B then thinks “Ooh! it’s a bit warm in here”.
People are like Frog B in general. Today, Anna thinks Carl hates her. Tomorrow, Patrick walks up to her and told her he hates her. Anna stays the same and doesn’t mind what her friends say. The next day, she learned that Kim and John also abhor her. Anna doesn’t realize at once the importance and the need for self improvement until the entire community hates her.
We learn our lessons when we experience pain. We finally see the warning signs and signals when things get rough and tough. When do we realize that we need to change diets? When none of our jeans and shirts would fit us? When do we stop eating candies and chocolates? When all of our teeth has fallen out? When do we realize that we need to stop smoking? When our lungs have gone bad? When do we pray and ask for help? When we realize that we’re gonna die tomorrow?
The only time most of us ever learn about unlocking our self improvement power is when the whole world is crashing and falling apart. We think and feel this way because it is not easy to change. But change becomes more painful when we ignore it.
Change will happen, like it or hate it. At one point or another, we are all going to experience different turning points in our life and we are all going to eventually unlock our self improvement power not because the world says so, not because our friends are nagging us, but because we realized its for our own good.
Happy people don’t just accept change, they embrace it. Now, you don’t have to feel a tremendous heat before realizing the need for self improvement. Unlocking your self improvement power means unlocking yourself up in the cage of thought that “its just the way I am”. It is such a poor excuse for people who fear and resist change. Most of us program our minds like computers.
Jen repeatedly tells everyone that she doesn’t have the guts to be around groups of people. She heard her mom, her dad, her sister, her teacher tells the same things about her to other people. Over the years, that is what Jen believes. She believes it’s her story. And what happens? Every time a great crowd would troop over their house, in school, and in the community she tends to step back, shy away and lock herself up in a room. Jen didn’t only believed in her story, she lived it.
Jen has to realize that she is not what she is in her story. Instead of having her story post around her face for everyone to remember, she has to have the spirit and show people “I am an important person and I should be treated accordingly!”
Self improvement may not be everybody’s favorite word, but if we look at things in a different point of view, we might have greater chances of enjoying the whole process instead of counting the days until we are fully improved. Three sessions in a week at the gym would result to a healthier life, reading books instead of looking at porn will shape up a more profound knowledge, going out with friends and peers will help you take a step back from work and unwind. And just when you are enjoying the whole process of unlocking your self improvement power, you’ll realize that you’re beginning to take things light and become happy.
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Self Improvement, Self Development
Posted by: | CommentsPersonal Development – Why Is It Important?
A lot of people look at life as being unfair at times and they think that life is a series of disappointments. Why are some people more “lucky” than others?
What about you? Does life seem unfair? Would you consider yourself as a happy person? Do you consider yourself a successful person? Do you consider yourself lucky? in Life? in Love?
Self improvement and self development are important, because they help to develop a new way of thinking, to give up the “life is unfair” attitude. Self improvement is a continuous process, a continuous work on ourselves.
Self improvement cannot come without your decision to do so. You should make your decision first.
There are numerous self improvement techniques to choose from. There are self improvement strategies used by the most successful people in the world. These techniques include affirmations, creative visualization, meditations and other.
There are a lot of options available such as self improvement books, CD’s, courses, seminars, trainings and workshops.
How to start? How to choose and apply self-improvement techniques?
You may want to start with little and simple self improvement steps such as positive affirmations to remove old negative thoughts and patterns and replace them with positive affirming beliefs. Add positive feelings and emotions to your affirmations for the best results
By using positive thinking and affirmations in your daily life, you can reprogram your mind, so you can achieve your goals.
Look at the people around you. If you find a trait of character, which you do not like, look at yourself closely and find out whether you have the same trait of character. Then use positive affirmations to achieve the change you want.
Everyone is different, and what works for one person may not work for another.
Self improvement makes us better.
To your success,
Susan Gray
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Everything You Will Ever Need To Know About Self Improvement Seminars
Posted by: | CommentsEver since the beginning of time, ambitious people of the world have attributed some “indescribable” secret to the success of those people with wealth. These people have spent, and will continue to spend, millions of dollars to cultivate these “secrets” within themselves.
Particularly since the early seventies, there has been a growing demand by the public to attend classes, workshops, and self-improvement seminars that will enable them to align their thinking as well as their actions, with those of people who have already achieve success.
The popularity of such best-selling how-to manuals as, ‘Winning Is Believing’, ‘Think And Grow Rich’, ‘How to Develop A Winning Personality’, ‘Overcoming Shyness’, ‘Imagineering’, ‘New Life Options’, ‘Winning By Negotiation’, ‘Successful Visual-Verbal Communications’, ‘Conversationally Speaking’ and countless others lends reinforcement to the to the “need” for self-improvement seminars.
You can promote and stage these seminars either as a generalist or as a specialist in a specific area of expertise -and attain wealth for yourself almost beyond your current imagination! The market potential has only barely been scratched, affording a real ground-floor opportunity for those with the gumption to take action.
Dale Carnegie – the author of the book, ‘How to Win Friends and Influence People’ – was certainly one of the first, if not “the first” self-improvement seminar marketer/teacher. Back in the Great Depression of the thirties, he recognized this need in people to improve themselves – he worked out a deal with the local management of his home town YMCA – got the word around that he was holding classes on self-improvement – and the rest is one of the truly classic unemployed-to-multi-million-dollar success stories of our time.
A self-improvement seminar is conducted much the same as a Toastmaster’s Club meeting… It can be held just about anywhere, from the informal atmosphere of someone’s living room to the formalities of the ‘Hilton Convention Center’.
Basically, a self-improvement seminar is a gathering of people where one or more speakers talk on a specific subject. More often than not, only a certain aspect of self-improvement, such as ‘How to Develop a Positive Mental Attitude’ – is the thrust of the seminar. In other words, the more successful seminars deal with “specialized areas” of self-improvement.
These speakers usually wind up their talks with audience involvement question and answer sessions. Most of them “wind down” with the speaker circulating through the audience, plus lots of opportunity for the purchase of self-help books and tapes by the people wanting on-going motivation and reinforcement relative to what they’ve just heard. Always – sometimes even as the featured subject of the seminar – there’s a great deal of motivation projected during these meetings. At the bottom line, motivation is more the purpose of these seminars than the attendees learning something they don’t already know. The favourite words of most seminar speakers are usually, “It’s the difference between having a dream and taking action – a matter of saying I can, believing it, and then doing it – because you can!”
Uchenna Ani-Okoye is an internet marketing advisor.
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